Wanting it All

wanting it all as a working motherIf you had asked me when I was pregnant how I was going to handle being a stay-at-home mom and working for myself, I would have told you that I wasn’t worried about it. “Things are going to be fine!” Babies nap so I was going to work when Charlie napped and my mom would babysit once a week and I’d be able to get everything done. I was confident that it would be that easy. I was totally wrong.

You know that saying “I want to do it all. I also want to do absolutely nothing.” This is my dilemma. I have to start by saying that I count my lucky stars every single day that I have the ability to stay home with Charlie because it is without a doubt the best job in the world. However, it feels that I’ve let this business that I’ve worked so hard at over the past few years fall by the wayside and that makes me sad. I know you are all going to comment the sweetest things and tell me I’m doing a great job and thank you in advance, but if I’m being honest it doesn’t feel that way.

The problem is that when Charlie sleeps, I rush to clean up our apartment, give Webster some love, take a shower, throw in a load of laundry and by the time I should sit down to work, I either want to sleep or Charlie wakes up and our day starts again. When Dave gets home and relieves me of mom duties, I just want to sit and be and spend time with my family (or find a few minutes to myself). My brain feels pulled in so many different directions and the part that fuels my creative juices is a little faded at the moment.

Charlie is in the BEST stage. He is giggling all the time, grabbing everything, chewing on anything he can get his hands on and just so full of life. It’s so hard to let him play while I try to focus on work because the reality is I’d rather be watching him. I know this situation is so much easier than most working moms who are dropping their babies off at day care while they work a 9-5 – props to you, super mom’s! I admire you so much.

I guess what I’m saying is that for now, I’m going to put my focus where it should be.

I’d love to know what you’d like to see on S&S moving forward. I don’t want to cloud your feeds with posts that I threw together at the last minute. Quality over quantity – you know what I mean? So what do you love! Fashion, personal style, collages, baby, motherhood, lifestyle, recipes? I’d love your feedback so I make sure that S&S stays one of your favorites.

Thanks for always hanging by when things get slow! You can always see more day to day on my instagram or snapchat @ lizadamsss.

xoxo

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  1. Liz, you do such a great job of keeping it real. I would love to see more family/life posts like this. Also, more outfits that fit into your new lifestyle — more casual clothes that work for a mom of a young baby.

  2. You are so real! And I love that! You rock. I admire YOU. I love your fashion and adorable pics of your precious son. 🙂 Any combination thereof would be great; however, I will continue to read whenever/whatever you post!
    Love from Geneva, IL,
    Mary

    http://www.BelleOnTrend.com

  3. Hi Liz, I have been following your blog since last summer or my 2nd trimester of pregnancy. I had my baby girl on Dec. 30th so I can relate to your post.

    You have been such a tremendous help to me. I look to see which BFing products you are using, what you & Charlie are wearing, and what’s new (period). You have saved me a lot of time because often times I am unable to go anywhere during normal business hours.

    I say post what you are passionate about because whatever it is, I trust it will be good. I am grateful to you so I’ll keep coming to your site on a daily basis and if there isn’t anything new, no biggie. You’ll get to it.

    XO

  4. There definitely is no “one size fits all” solution to juggling work/mom life. Just go with what your gut says and what makes you the most happy. In the end, that’s all that matters. Love your mix of style inspiration and real-life posts. xoxo

  5. I’m loving all the baby/motherhood posts as I’m expecting my first baby this July. I’d also love to see some outfit posts where you discuss how you’re styling your new post-baby bod. Lifestyle/recipes of how you’re bouncing back would be great too! And I’m sure I’ll be having all the same struggles you are in the coming months!

  6. I love that you’re keeping it real! I love that your blog has kept its same vibes and heart but that you’ve adapted it as your life has changed! It doesn’t help anyone to hear some mom has it all together when she really doesn’t, haha 🙂 like when you post on insta saying “we made it outside today!” That’s reality. I would love to see more of your style as it is right now, whatever you’re up to! Most of us can’t find enough days to dress up and go all out, so seeing day to day fashion is so great. You seem like a wonderful mom, and we can’t get enough of Charlie! Xoxox!

  7. I love updates on charlie (so cute!) and reading about life as a new mom! You keep it real and I find everything so relatable. I would love to see more of your everyday fashion choices as a mom too!

  8. I think I speak for most when I say I’ll keep reading no matter what. Whether that means three posts a week, one post a week or even one post every other week! We’re constantly forced to believe, “You can have it all!” and I’m not sure that’s true at certain stages in our lives. Even without a baby, I still have to make sacrifices. Between full-time work, my blog, working out (for my physical AND mental health), maintaining a healthy relationship with my fiance and staying in touch/making time with family and friends, it’s hard and something always has to give in order to make all of those things happen for myself. I can’t imagine throwing a baby into the mix. Charlie looks like the happiest baby and to me, that means you’re doing the best you can 🙂

    I really love your collage roundups. There’s always a slew of things I add to my wishlist or, let’s be honest, add to my cart right away. Sorry for the novel!

    26 and Not Counting

  9. Liz,
    I just want you to know that you’re not alone. I’m going through the exact same thing right now! I think Dottie and Charlie are just a week or so apart. Reading your post and knowing someone else is struggling to juggle if ALL brought me some peace, so I hope telling you I struggle to find time for everything brings you a little peace too. I hear it gets easier and will only make you want to go back…

    Xo,
    K

    1. Thanks Katie! You’re so sweet. Can’t wait to meet Dottie, soon! Hang in there 🙂 xoxo

  10. You know what Liz, I’m a stay at home mom as well and it’s one of the BEST and most important jobs ever. I know just how you feel as to know what’s truly important right now and for the future. What will you regret not doing and what you may regret doing.

    No one said it was going to be easy and at the same time Liz, you’re an incredible woman, a loving wife and a wonderful mother. For you just to think such things and contemplate your direction just shows just how much of an amazing woman that you are.

    Take moments to pray and meditate you’ll find that God can clear your mind, set your sales and push you in the right direction even though sometimes making those decisions are hard, you are not alone in making them. Also let me tell you, my baby is now a toddler, and those times that he was smaller I look back at them with joy because although not perfect in the slightest and busting my patoot on my own blog, I KNOW I did the best I could in those moments and I always, always, always remembered to remember certain moments that I spent with him instead of my mind wandering else where. I tried to make it a priority to be in the “now” with him, to smother that little guy with kisses and just enjoy the moment knowing each day, he was growing and changing. Sorry to write a whole blog post on a comment. But I hope I helped just a tad. ♥ This is just a season in your life Love.

    xoxo

  11. I think this is something that every mother struggles with – working moms and moms that stay at home. I went back to work full-time after being on maternity leave for 13 weeks and felt a lot of those same feelings. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t think about staying at home, but the reality is, I think i would have felt that way at home too! It’s all part of the adjustment period every mom goes through after having a baby. My daughter is almost 6 months old and I feel like we are just now getting into our rhythm. I have loved reading your posts on Charlie and I second the lifestyle/fashion posts that reflect your new style as a Mom.

  12. I agree with Brittany, go with your gut. As the mother of a 25 year old son, I would give almost anything to go back and start over with him. They grow up so fast, its easy to miss the little things. So I would never fault you for wanting to enjoy family time, or even just staring at him for hours! Thank you for always being real, and honest. I love everything about your blog, especially the fashion posts as are you are truly a style inspiration for me.

  13. I had a baby boy, Henry, at the beginning of September and am back to work only on a PT basis so I relate to a lot of what you wrote– the struggle is real! (as cliche as that phrase is now). And I agree, I like your posts that keep it “real” about your new life including mom duties, etc. I think you could evolve your blog to incorporate that side of your life more now and even incorporate baby fashion/toys/gear/tips and tricks that you like for you and your little man. Less worry about elaborate outfit shoots….

    That said, no pressure. All your readers are still here and happy!

  14. Honestly, I would enjoy more of this…your real life. The adorable instagram shot brought me here and it’s nice to relate to other moms who are trying to do it all…I love all that you mentioned – fashion, recipes, etc. Fit in those things as they come about in your real life, and you can’t go wrong.:)

    -Krisztina
    http://www.krisztinawilliams.com

  15. Yes to all of this. Momming is the best job, but I’m right there with you. I don’t even have the energy to read once I’m done with everything else. It’s totally worth it though!
    clothedwithgrace.com

  16. Your blog is by far my FAVORITE to read, So THANK YOU for keeping up with everything with a new baby at home! As a new mom as well I love reading your mom posts and also advice on beauty and clothing for a new mom!

    1. Your blog is one of my favorites and one of the first I check each morning. Your outfits posts are great but I enjoy the real life moments so much better. My son is now 21 months and I’ve found that life with him and my family is much different than the “before” times. I truly relate with blog moms when I see the relaxed outfits, messes and real talk posts. I’d like to see more posts on baby/toddler products that you use for Charlie. Keep up the good, hard work!

  17. Liz – You’re doing a great job! Your readers still check in everyday because you have built a loyal following because you are the most endearing and real of them all. I always enjoy your budget friendly outfits, weekend looks and recipe posts. Just follow your heart 🙂

  18. I enjoy these types of posts the most – just honest, every day things that are relatable. I love to read about motherhood, marriage, workouts, casual outfits, apartment decor, day to day things 🙂

  19. You are doing a phenomenal job and I still look forward to all of your posts, snapchats and instagrams! I love videos of Charlie giggling and seeing “real life” 🙂 Would love to see more posts where you mix expensive items with more affordable choices. Splurge/Save Also, workout clothes! I love lulu/athleta, but would love to hear about more about your favorites!

  20. Good for you for doing what feels right Liz – honestly I don’t know how you do it. I always tell people when we start having kids my blog will be over because when I am around my nieces and nephew I never touch a phone or laptop. I can’t imagine taking time away from family to do it but it’s hard. I hope you have a wonderful week with Charlie and my favorite stuff from you is outfits which I know is so easy to get done 🙂 Lots of love!

    Shaheen

    Shaheen | Lows to Luxe

  21. You are doing a fabulous job! I have loved following you throughout your journey of becoming a mother and think you are a rockstar for juggling it all. I agree with you on the quality versus quantity. My favorite posts at S&S are ones on personal style and lifestyle/motherhood. Dave and you make adorable parents and I look forward to following along!

  22. First off, all my mommy girlfriends have taken min 6 weeks off and most max out at 12 weeks….with NO WORK at all. I realize you don’t have that luxury to hold your audience, and maintain the steady stream of visitors, but you still deserve time to yourself without feeling worried or guilty.

    All that said, I’ve been LOVING your casual looks lately. I prefer to see real world outfits, rather than over the top glamorous looks (that no one can afford, nor has the occasion to wear on a regular basis). It’s also been a while since I’ve seen one in your feed, but I like the sporadic food/recipe posts as well. AND…you don’t have to have a cute outfit or make up on for that 😉

  23. I also became a mom for the first time this past October and I just love your “mom” post! Post just like this one to help me know that I’m not the only one that feels this same way!
    I would love more family post and mommy fashion and also I’m in Chicago as well and would love if you shared some fun things to do with baby around the city 🙂

  24. I always love reading your blog and following you in Instagram and Snapchat! I love how honest you are in all of your posts and how much you LOVE being a mom! My favorite posts are always on Charlie, mom life, hair/skincare, and lifestyle. I also love how your outfits are affordable and accessible- unlike most other bloggers. Please keep it up!

  25. Baby turned 1 last week and I still feel the way you do! It is so incredibly hard for me to sit in front of the computer and not think of all the other things I need to be doing. The goals I set for a business I wanted to get up and running just haven’t been realized yet because I feel strongly that of most importance is tending to baby’s needs right now. I wonder when I will ever find balance but have realized what I’d like is perfection and it doesn’t exist! (which is super hard for me, btw) The first year really went as fast as everyone said it would and I am forever grateful to have been able to stay home with him and not miss any moment. I say props to you, momma, keep doing what you’re doing in remembering baby is number 1 during the day….he won’t be this small forever! I cannot tell you how I appreciate your open and honest post. In a sea of catalog-esque blogs these post are what keep me returning. Personal style, motherhood and lifestyle – thank you for being so genuine.

  26. Liz,
    I don’t think I’ve ever commented on a blog post, but your post 100% spoke to me! I recently quit my job to be a stay-at-home mom here in Lincoln Park. I had my little guy in March of last year, worked for 7 months, and just made the tough decision to give my career up temporarily to stay at home with him. With all of my friends still working (being “Super Moms” that they are) it’s been such a struggle to adjust to this new lifestyle that I’m not accustomed to. While I don’t have a blog, I’ve always valued my “me” time, and keeping my creative juices flowing — it’s been such a challenge dealing with the uncomfortable feeling that I’ve given those things up in some way. Then, on top of that, I feel selfish for even thinking those thoughts because my #1 priority is my little guy! So, while I don’t have any words of wisdom, going through this has just made me realize that it’s just as important to just say to other Moms in the same position… “I get you, and I’m there with you.” I say, keep on keeping it real on the blog with your family/motherhood posts, because that’s what sets your voice apart and what resonates with so many people on a deeper level (like me!).

    We’re in the same neighborhood, so maybe we’ll run into each other! Shoot me an email if you ever want to meet up for a coffee/baby date!

    -Krista

  27. As someone who has read your blog for years I just want to say that this transition feels totally normal! 3 years ago I would have never read a “mom’s blog”- but now I’m a 28 year old newlywed and thinking of expanding my own family in the next year or two. Your personal style aligns so much with mine and I love seeing your lifestyle, fashion and beauty posts. Looking forward to reading S&S in years to come!

  28. I am a working mom of two kiddos, 4 yr and 3 mo living right here in Chicago too! The struggle of being a working mom, whether it be for yourself or a large company is REAL! What i’d like to see on the blog is how your life as a mom is changing as your son grows up. How do you get dinner on the table? How do you make time to work out? How do you carve out quality time with your girlfriends and husband? How do you make a new set of mommy friends? These are real life dilemas that most women face, myself included. I do love the splashy fashion blog entrys with a beautiful Chanel bag in it don’t get me wrong!!! However, as you evolve as a mom and wife wearing many different hats, so should the blog. Take us with you on your journey all while keeping the same genuine, honest voice and it will resonate with readers! All the best to you and your family!
    Erin

    PS. If you want to meet up for a playdate, let me know

  29. I feel the same way. I am a working mom and wanting it all is something I struggle with all the time. It feels like I either need to be one of those hard-core working moms or stay at home mom. It is hard to find balance. But as Charlie grows, you will find more balance. This is my favorite blog out of the 60 or so I read. You are always so honest and real. And I love that! Give yourself more props!

  30. Liz, I had a baby 4 months ago and feel the exact same way. I am in a somewhat similar situation with working from home part time. I thought it would be way easier than it is and constantly feel pulled in 2 different directions. I find it exhausting to try to do everything and, frankly, to even think about it. Thanks for being honest about it!

  31. Liz, you’ve been doing an awesome job! I’ve been following your blog for a few years now, and I love these sorts of posts best – real life posts. You’ll figure it out, but for those of us who are looking forward to motherhood soon (hopefully), it’s nice to see/read that there are moms out there who are trying to figure out how to do it all. I’ve loved reading your advice about motherhood (Charlie is adorable!), and your readers are behind you as you figure it out. Why not blog about what you love – Charlie, being a mom, and how you’re making it work for your family as a stay at home/working mom? In the meantime, I’ll see you in Instagram!

  32. It’s so hard to find a balance but so rewarding to be in a position to do so! You ARE doing a great job mama!

  33. Aw, hugs! I wanted to join in with the others to say I love your blog and you are doing a great job. I’m sure you don’t believe it, but one of the reasons I do love your blog is that you are a real, normal person – pointing out spit-up in a picture, posts like this, etc. It would feel fake and an illusion/facade if months after having a baby you were posting elaborate how-tos you had spent 2 days on.

    What I and I’m sure others love about your blog is that your brand is you! Sure people enjoy airbrushed perfection from time-to-time, but no one can honestly wear (or afford) those outfits … at least not without getting side-eyed in Chicago for wearing stilettos, lace dresses, and full makeup to grab coffee. I love that you wear clothes that normal (but stylish) people wear and talk about normal topics — with substance!

    Keep it up and keep doing you!

  34. Baby, motherhood, lifestyle, recipes, and clothes for being mom! Maybe because that’s the stage I’m in myself 😉 My son Merritt was born 2 weeks after Charlie, so I feel you! I decided to quit my job this time around (I have a 2 year old son, August, as well) in favor of a single focus and not feeling so pulled in many directions. It’s been hard but oh so very wonderful! Thank you for sharing! xo

  35. Trust your instincts. That’s the advice I wish someone had given me in my early days of motherhood. The world is full of so-called experts on every topic – particularly work and parenting, but you already know more than you think. Work will always be there for you when you’re ready and we’ll all keep following your journey. Thanks for your honesty!

  36. I think we all appreciate your honesty and understand your dilemma. Enjoy this time with your little Charlie.
    I would love to see the absolute best new staple pieces for the seasons.. It’s great for me because I live in the mountains and out of the loop! And then as we move through the season show how you can incorporate those pieces in many ways! Keep up the good work!

  37. You are in the thick of the toughest part of motherhood — the baby needs so much, and it really is tough to find energy for work/time alone. Things will start to change once he hits a year. In the meantime, BE KIND TO YOURSELF.

    Also, S&S is STILL my favorite blog, so no worries there! I love the fashion posts (especially when you style Kate Spade pieces).

  38. Liz,
    I am so proud of your honesty here. I also hope you feel supported in your decision to focus on Charlie and your family. From a mom of two sweet boys, 7 and 4. Your schedule will open again for more struggle with the juggle!! Lol! I know the old adage that time flies and they grow up in a blink used to give me such an eye roll, but it’s true!!!

    Charlie will only be a baby right now, and your heart isn’t lying. He needs you the very most right now. Your readers, followers, audience who live and honor the quality of your work will be with you!!! Others may fall away, but that only makes room for better more supportive member of your online community to step up!

    I, for one, love your posts about motherhood, Charlie, family life, and the legitimate struggles of the stay-at-home patent running a business simultaneously!!! I hope you’d able to have BOTH!!!! The moments to simply be with Dave, Charlie, and Webster (we have a chocolate lab baby, too!), and the times when you’re able to have it all on the business front.

    Much care,
    Megan
    http://refinedrugged.com

  39. I personally LOVE everything you post. I love the fashion/lifestyle, but even so I super love the family photos, Charlie, Webster (Chocolate Lab fanatic over here), trips, etc. You seem at such a happy place, I would hate for you to think your blog is suffering. You are so real, and I think that is what keeps people coming back, no matter what content is.

  40. Enjoy your baby each and every moment. They grow too fast and by the time you turn around they are in high school. I stayed home for all those précious years and never look back with regret only pure happiness I was able to relish in my kids youth. Enjoy and do only what you can with your blog, we are not going anywhere!:). Charlie is just adorable

  41. Liz,
    I am a stay at home mom who works a few hours a week, so I totally feel you about juggling it all! Like many posted before me, post on what you are loving now-they should be your favorite things to talk about and take pictures of! If you are going to take time away from your sweet babe, make it worth it! 🙂 Personally, my favorite thing about following you are your snaps because they are (obviously) the most authentic—real-life outfits, mom-talk, fun times with your cute family….all the things people follow a blog to begin with, being relatable and like having a conversation with a friend! 🙂

  42. I definitely hear what you’re saying! I am currently writing my dissertation and although I do have childcare 20 hours a week, it doesn’t seem to take much to derail that. For instance, my 8 month old daughter had a nasty cold, turned ear infections and bronchitis and so suddenly I stopped working for a week. And in the few moments I had to myself, my work was the last thing on my mind. It’s hard to juggle everything, especially when I’m not even sure what I want. Do I want to be home? Do I want to work full time? Part time? I don’t know.

    Regarding your blog, I’ve really enjoyed it since I found it a few years ago. For me, the biggest determining factor in whether or not I read any blog (aside from content – which is great here!) is consistency. If someone posts really sporadically and disappears for a month, I’m much, much less likely to read than if they only post once a week on Monday. Sure, I’ll keep checking for a while, but eventually that blog is forgotten and I move on.

    I hope you find the right balance for you. Wishing you and your family all the best!

  43. Liz, I found your blog a few months back and you, my dear, are lovely. You are a wonderful wife, mama and daughter – it’s apparent in everything you share with us. Keep shining bright and enjoying your family.
    With a little one on the way, I’m savings all your tips on parenting and the gear that comes with it. I’d love for you to keep up with the motherhood posts! Sending you all the best.

  44. Despite the way you feel, you’re doing an amazing job “doing it all.” As far as keeping up your readership, I will continue to check the blog for updates and I follow your IG and SC accounts too. In a world where people promote the most perfect lives through social media, I find it absolutely refreshing to read your posts about real life. Because guess what? None of us is perfect. It gets old–fast–to see perfection all the time on blogs and IG. My favorite posts of yours (and ones I hope we’ll continue to see as your time permits) are posts like these (aka real life struggles), baby/mommy life (hoping to join the club soon), fashion, and recipes. I also really love your fashion collages. Keep up the good work!

  45. Where are your leggings from?

    Love all your posts, but especially skin care and nordstroms!

  46. I love this, and I so so so relate!

    I know it was probably never your intention to be a “mom blogger” but as a blogger myself, I find that my best posts are the ones that reflect real life and the readers who relate will stick and grow.

    Good luck to you, mama. You’re on the best adventure!!

  47. I look forward to reading your blog daily, and I do hope you stick with it! I love your fashion/personal style/ collage posts since your style is similar to my own and it provides me with fresh inspiration.

  48. Hi Liz,

    Fellow Chicago FTM here to a little guy who is 10 weeks today. My husband and I made the difficult decision that I would stay home after the little guy arrived. I too thought I would continue working and put the little guy in daycare no problem, but once he was here different story!!! The thought of my long commute, pumping, my one late night a week and one weekend a month at work with no flexibility in my work schedule all seemed like too much! Plus my husband travels for work overnight often. My first day back to work would have been this coming Monday and I am SO relieved I don’t have to go. I think anyone who has ever had a little one knows how difficult it is to get things done while taking care of them! Sometimes I don’t even manage a shower until I put him down for the night (although we’re working on that!!). I’ve loved your posts about being a new mom and your continued fashion posts too! They inspire me to get that shower in and get dressed for the day! Enjoy your time with Charlie!

  49. Liz! I am a daily reader but have never commented before. First of all, you really are an inspiration, not only for all that you do but for how real you keep it with your readers. Flash back a few years ago, I would regularly keep up with 10 blogs but today (with the craziness of life), you are one of the two blogs that I still follow and it is because you are real and always provide insight and guidance to your readers! My favorite posts are the lifestyle ones — about motherhood, baby Charlie (who is the cutest!!), working out, real life issues — these are what keep me coming back day after day! I think it is so great that your focus is on your family – that really is the most important thing! Thank you for being such an inspiration 🙂
    xoxo

  50. i’m always going to keep reading because you are such a REAL person with great style. i’m not pregnant (or anywhere near that – very single in NYC) but for some reason your posts always really resonate in that sometimes it’s hard to figure out whats right when your life is changes. i love your style – more outfit posts is what i’d love to see!

  51. You are not alone and you’re doing great! To be completely honest, I can relate to you so much more now than before you were pregnant/had Charlie and love the direction/focus of your blog. I would keep focusing on baby, motherhood, lifestyle with personal style thrown in, but I like the focus away from just fashion.

  52. I love this post – it’s so honest and well written and relatable. I’m sure deep down you feel it, but trust me – you are doing an incredible job!!! Also, I promise it gets easier. My daughter just turned one, and there comes a time when things just synch up and you get into a groove and you get some of your own time back. Nothing is better than watching these tiny little humans grow 🙂 xxx

  53. I really enjoy the content you post, little bit of fashion, baby, and life. I’m about to turn 30, every day i ask myself if it’s time for a baby. Mom advice and experience from others is so helpful as I contemplate what kind of balance I will have with future baby and full time job. While I may not be pregnant yet, I’m taking note of all this advice. I like your style so I enjoy the fashion posts as well. I think being relatable and real to readers is what keeps me coming back.

  54. Liz,
    As a single woman who is NO WHERE NEAR ready to have kids….I thought I would be so turned off by the idea of you shifting your blog away from fashion that fits my lifestyle. However, I decided to at least give S&S a chance….and I’m so glad I did. I love reading the Charlie posts just as much as I enjoy the fashion posts. And while I can’t relate to being a mom and having to deal with nursery furniture, breast feeding equipment, infant style, etc….I consider it research for my future. I think its apparent that your passion comes across in your blog because you’ve managed to keep this single gal addicted to your posts in spite of all the changes that have happened in your life and in your blog. So, as the young people say….You do you…and I think this blog will be just fine.

  55. Liz! You are one of my favorite bloggers and I LOVE seeing photos of Charlie and life as a new mama on the blog! Would also love more life posts like this, recipes, beauty/skincare as well as some outfit posts thrown in because your style is so great! Even including links of cool stuff you’ve read throughout the week etc. would be a great idea. I always love seeing what my favorite bloggers are reading/doing!

    Xo
    Taylor

  56. Hi Liz!

    Love your blog and insta so much! I need some advice though. I’m in my early 20’s and a really good friend of mine (who is a bit older than me) is having a baby soon. Since I’m new to this, I was wondering if you could do a post about push presents for different price ranges! I’d love to hear what you’d love to receive (or did receive!) and what your input on this is. 🙂

    Love,
    Marie

  57. Liz,

    I love posts like this, as a soon to be mom I love following more of your lifestyle. Of course I love seeing your style and fashion, but I much prefer honest, down to earth posts like this; they’re such a breath of fresh air. I’ve loved reading your baby recommendations as well. As you know all too well it’s so over whelming prior to baby, what to buy, what works, what hasn’t really worked, etc.

    Keep up the fabulous work 🙂

    Emily

  58. a mix of everything is great! Especially if you’re focusing on quality over quantity. Any mom-no matter what their situation- understands your dilemma and i can promise you your readers will stick around even if you’re not posting as often. xoxo

  59. My dearest Liz, go with the flow. Be selfish. Move to a once a week Blog with an occasional special blog if one of your clients has a good one. Bob/Dad

  60. i would much rather read bloggers who post thoughtful, well-crafted material once in a while than those who feel like they “have to” get something up every day — so in the nicest way possible, cut yourself some slack! or maybe reframe: you worked your tail off to get S&S to where it is today, but your life recently changed in one of the most significant ways and so you are naturally putting your attention toward your top priority… which isn’t work right now day-to-day 🙂 charlie is lucky to have you as a mama and i have no doubt that your passion and zest for blogging and whatever else will come back when it needs to. right now your focus is on your family and your son, and that is more than okay.

    i’m currently pregnant (due any day now!) so i personally loved the pregnancy posts and the now motherhood related ones. baby posts are also super relevant to me as a reader, and helpful, and i like the personal style posts because they’re visually appealing and you show a vast range of price points with easy links to find something online. i think recipes are fine once in a while but i really come to your site for the real talk and the fashion. and i used to live in chicago so i enjoy seeing snippets of the city again too 🙂

  61. OMG you’re being way too hard on yourself!! I read your blog everyday and I have never once thought you put a post together last minute! Give yourself some credit, there are a few popular blogs that have multiple staff members (!!) that don’t even post everyday.

    Obviously I don’t know you, but you’re wonderful and you’re doing great. Don’t think you’re slacking at all!

  62. Liz,
    i feel exactly the same as you do too! i am a self-employed mom with 3 1/2 month baby, without any help. it’s a real struggle for sure. i’d love to see you continue posting the same mix of posts regarding mama-hood, working, fashion (i’m sure getting your fashion photo shoot done is now more difficult than ever, so maybe keep it to one per week??), and i also love seeing a glimpse of your home, what you are cooking, etc. in other words, keep doing what you’ve been doing because i truly love your blog!

  63. My hubs and I are pregnant with our first and I would love a little more insight on your diet and workout post birth and how you don’t look tired in any of your photos 🙂

  64. I totally understand where you are coming from!! And being in the same stage of life–I would love more motherhood posts! And yes–you are doing a great job!

  65. Love this post because it is real. I decided to stop writing my blog after my baby was born as I just didn’t / couldn’t find the time as a stay at home mom. I certainly miss it and having that creative outlet so am revisiting the idea on how I could work around that. Do what feels most important to you. The blog will always be here…

  66. Having a 9-6 IS a lot easier! Don’t beat yourself up because I’ve found it harder when you can’t have separate personal & professional times. As a teacher I feel like I’ve gotten to see both sides & am so much more productive when I go into work versus on off days or during the summer. It is incredibly hard when you don’t have that separate space or time to focus on one aspect of your life.

    You’ll also get better at it. It took me about a year to figure out how to balance a bit more.

  67. As a Chicago gal, I love viewing your outfit posts and seeing what you’re up to around the city. I also love that your outfit posts aren’t over the top; They are totally doable for the average girl. Love love love stoping by your blog, even if the posts are infrequent!

  68. You will never regret choosing family over work, never. Time flies so quickly, as I’m sure you’re already seeing. My oldest is turning 5 next month and it seems like yesterday he was going through the same phases as Charlie. Cherish these moments, it’s cliche but the dishes and laundry and internet will be there long after he’s grown! Soak it up while you can!

  69. Life comes first! Always. These moments with that little guy are going to go way to quickly as is. You’ll find a balance as it becomes more and more your new normal. I’d rather see 3 genuine posts a week than see you killing yourself to push the content out. The peeks into your daily life and outfits have always been my favorite. Just keep it real.

  70. Loving your casual looks lately too! And love any and all Charlie pics. You’re doing a great job for being back at your job and balancing your family/self care.

  71. I have been a reader for awhile and you are one of the blogs on my daily rotation.
    I might be one of the only readers who is not married or a mom. So I would definitely miss the fashion postings! I enjoyed reading about your business but your baby is certainly adorable, so I can understand the change of focus.

  72. Every mother goes through this. We all want to try to find “the balance” yet we always feel like we are falling short in some area. If you have the time, read the book, “Lean In”. It helped me a lot.

  73. Hi Liz – you are such an inspiration, and I really appreciate your honesty! I love your lifestyle posts throughout Chicago – either an outfit post in front of a pretty backdrop or while you’re out (i.e. the Restoration Hardware day). I also like when you write about topics like TDM. Thank you again! I’ve been following you for years, and you are one of the only bloggers whose shift to motherhood has been enjoyable for readers who are far from being moms 🙂

  74. Even though I am not anywhere close to being a mother or settling down, your posts are still so relatable and are good at keeping everything in perspective. I love your beauty posts and outfit inspiration-helps pull ideas into what I should focus on when I go shopping for new seasons and events. Thank you for always doing you!

  75. Hi Liz, I have still loved your posts, and I’m not a mom! I love the real-life posts of life with baby/husband/keeping home together/style/beauty…I say share when you want to share, and when you are tired, be present and enjoy the moments you are in. I will continue to check in, but certainly don’t expect that you will always have time/energy to post as often as you used to. Thanks for sharing!

  76. I love your posts since you became a mom! It’s refreshing to hear how it hasn’t always been roses and that you struggle like everyone else. So far the mix of posts has been great and I especially love hearing about the mental side of having a baby. You don’t need to be fancy and high fashion, be real and down to earth–be you!

  77. I’m loving the new direction your posts/IG/Snaps have taken. My daughter, Opal, was born about 2 weeks after Charlie, so it’s fun to follow along and see where he’s at, what he’s into, what products you’re using, etc. Your posts are a fun part of my day, so keep it up!

    Love from Mpls, MN

  78. Hi Liz, I have been a long time reader of your blog now and just love it! Your style is feminine, elegant and classy! I was wondering if you could do a post on any products, tips and/or secrets to your healthy hair. Your hair is flawless, in every post… Any insight you can give (besides good genes :)) would be greatly appreciated!

  79. Your content is always relevant to me! Whether it’s once or three times a day that I see something you post. I think you’ve done an awesome job at balancing and admire you for it. My hubs and I are thinking about starting a family too and it’s nice to be able to get a peak into a busy moms life…..makes me feel excited about getting to experience everything that you so greatly show your readers. I love your outfit posts and would love to see what you guys do for meals….do you plan ahead? On the fly?

    All the best!

  80. I think it is so common for new moms to feel torn this way! Know that your readers are still rooting for you (as a mommy and as a blogger!) and we’ll be here enjoying whatever content you want to put out in this season of change in your life. I love reading posts about Charlie and how you manage to include time for yourself (or what that looks like) as a new mom. I also love the snapshots into your little family’s life that come without a long story attached. Keep up the good work, on the home and blog fronts!

    Xo, HC

    http://www.cocoaandcotton.com

  81. Love lifestyle and recipes! you are doing a great job, rather someone be honest and real than fake!

  82. Fellow Chicago FTM here (my little girl is almost 5 months).

    Liz I LOVE LOVE LOVE the way that your blog has evolved. I feel like I can relate to so many of your motherhood posts – please keep them coming!

    And on that note – completely understand and relate to the desire to scale back. You do what is best for your family (they take first priority!) We will keep stopping by your corner of the internet regardless of how frequently you post. We get it!

  83. you’re doing a great job….i understand you feel that you’re balance is off but things will start evolving and your time with shift and you’ll be able to get more done when you want! xo

    @stylemelauren
    http://www.stylemelauren.com

  84. This is just a thought, but would you ever consider having “mom contributors” to your blog? I have a 2 year old daughter and a 5 month old son, and one of the hardest things for me has been sometimes feeling like I’m doing the “wrong” thing by working part time…but then I wonder if I’d be doing the “right” thing by staying at home? Sometimes it’s just nice to hear other people are in the same boat as you and that you’re not alone. I’m pretty hard on myself most of the time (and it seems like you are, too!) and I’ve found it to be a giant relief when I talk to my friends and realize they’re going through the same things as I am. It might be fun/helpful to get in touch with some other moms on your blog and see how they manage day to day life. Just a thought! 🙂

  85. Liz – You’re right, I’m going to tell you: YOU’RE DOING A GREAT JOB! Your blog is my favorite. And the only blog I have continued to follow after it transitioned to a mommy/fashion blog. I love it! You’re so relatable, and always write in a way that’s relateable to anyone, at any stage of life (I’m 29, and single with no kids!). I’d like to continue to see your fashion posts, even if they are few and far between. Also, keep us up to date with your changing day-to-day routine. Those few minutes you have alone – what do you like to do? Put on a facial mask? Read? And what are you reading? Stare out your window? I’d love to see some apartment tours, too! And I love, love hearing about Chicago. Keep DOING YOU 🙂

  86. I’ll keep reading your blog no matter how many times a week you post. Maybe a Friday recap of the week? Once a week sounds like a good place to start. Family first, second, and third. Everything else is secondary. Have a great weekend!

  87. I am not a mom, so of course I lean toward: personal style/collage/beauty/fashion/lifestyle!
    You are always fun, real, and reasonable, which is almost lost in the blogging world, these days. Your blog is my favorite! Thanks, Liz!

  88. I would love to see fashion/outfit/where to shop posts, similar to what you’ve done in the past. Your style is so down to earth- outfits that every woman could wear. Love seeing updates on Charlie too; he’s a cutie!

  89. Hey this is my first post, but I feel compelled to write you something. Take your time and don’t look at other moms traveling the world hopping on plans and wearing heels while stamping their passport. That must be a tiresome thing. I actually enjoyed your last few posts especially the one with you and hubby having brunch. Your audience may not want to see another cashmere blouse to buy for $450 but your personal posts are the best to me. Id like to see you cook recipes, I’d want to see the before and after mess of it all. I’ve always like your site because I feel like your just down the street. Well you are because I live in Chicago too but you know what I mean. Anyway definitely give us quality, not just another spring boot post 🙂

  90. Thanks for writing about this! I love to know there are other people in the same boat! ( my son is the same age as Charlie) so refreshing to hear about your day to day as a new mom!

  91. Hi Liz!
    I feel you lady, I feel you! Its tough to be a mama and hold on to and grow your business you’ve worked so hard for. When I had Ellie, I was at the height of my business and I thought I could handle it just fine. I know how much of a struggle it is to balance your days. It feels impossible. Some days you’ll feel like an amazing mom, and other days you’ll feel like crap that you spent more time on work than family. I’m 3 years in as a mama and all i can say is it is okay to slow down. Don’t spread yourself thin and know that what you are doing is more than enough for the time being. It took me a while to accept my new schedule and ultimately new lifestyle. It helps me to plan my week and make priorities of what needs to be accomplished, the rest can wait. Moving forward with S&S: personally I love your product picks and outfit post the most! XO!

  92. As a first-time Mom to a 10 week old, this piece really resonated. We all do the best we can, every day. I’d love to hear how you get away and travel. Tips and tricks you can share with how to manage flights and hotels etc. Keep true to yourself. That’s what makes you stand out. Charlie is a giant spunk. Enjoy him!